The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and Sawyer Robbins 5 / 5 stars
You will either love this book because it will be useful in your day to day life as a people pleasing, micromanager who overthinks most interactions or you’re someone who doesn’t fit that description and you tend to not care about what people think of you to which this book won’t be helpful and rather very obvious, boring, and a bit repetitive (you’re one of the lucky ones). As someone who has a hard time with expectations and who also is an empath / people pleaser, I found Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory to be most helpful at understanding the art of relinquishing the imaginary control I thought I possessed and learning other peoples emotions and experiences are not mine to carry. After finishing this book, there was a sense of freedom and realization I felt, simply put: I’m the one getting in the way of myself. This sense of responsibility for the emotions, thoughts, or approval of others, when in reality no one has control over any of that, was draining me and taking away from my own sense of purpose and happiness. Something I found uncomfortable but yet oddly satisfying was how simply Robbins laid out facts in a direct, no-nonsense way. I appreciated her tough love conversation and empowering tone. Overall I found the theory easy to understand, applicable to everyday life, and when utilized correctly, yields the results you’re hoping to find. This was my first book by Mel Robbins, but not my last.
